Most of us have used at least one test to find out more about our personality profile. Many of us have probably integrated the result of that test into our identity and would describe ourselves using desired qualities such a “resilient”, “patient”, “creative”, “hard working”, “confident”, “reliable” and so on.
Very few of us will talk about the less pleasant aspects of our being and some of us remain truly convinced that they are perfect and have nothing to work on. To a level or another, we are probably all deluded in our image about ourselves, as well as in our view of the others and the world around us. How else can we be when we grow up and live in a world that discourages imperfection?
The reality of our human nature is, however, a bit different. None of us is perfect or will ever be, and none of us will have a fully positive personality. Yet, many myths continue to be passed on from one generation to another about human personality.
We are all defined by our human nature
There are no good and bad people. All people have the potential to be good and evil. There are no smart and stupid people. All people have the ability to comprehend some areas of knowledge, but will struggle to absorb other type of information. There are no aggressive and non-aggressive people. All people have aggressiveness as a trait in their personality which will manifest to an extent or another at various times in their lives.
People are not calm or agitated, beautiful or ugly, cheerful or sad, confident or not confident, tidy or messy, fair or unfair, tolerant or intolerant, strong or weak, optimistic or pessimistic, friendly or unfriendly, vulnerable or not vulnerable, etc. They are every single one of these at different times of their lives, plus other four thousands adjectives that could be used to describe human personality.
We have it all within
Based on my experience of living in this world and working with people, we have it all within. All possible human traits, positive, neutral and negative, all of them without exception. They are active or dormant deep within us, but they can be always brought into our manifested behaviour.
It is mainly up to us and our mind-soul-body responses if we manifest in a way or another, but also up to the world around us which will influence what we think, how we feel and how we behave.
Measurement scales cannot capture the complex human experience
For a long time we’ve looked at personality through several theories and a number of tools created to support them. Those tests and inventories have served their purpose in the past, but nowadays we make ourselves a great disservice if we continue to follow them blindly.
Nowadays we know more about the physical brain activity and its software – the human mind. We know that we are far from understanding the human mind completely, but we know enough to not limit our personality to a profile defined by a set of behaviours.
The technological revolution has given us all the chance to acquire information and communicate with the world like never before. We can instantly access hundreds and thousands of people in all corners of the world and learn about their mindset and the culture surrounding them.
We can look at personality using a graph of traits existent in all people and manifesting on different levels at different times of their lives. The dynamic changes in both the outer and the inner world will influence peoples’ thinking and behaviour and their personality graph will change its course accordingly.
Today we are not tied to any measurement scales. They cannot possibly capture the unbelievable human experience. We have opened our minds and have accepted that we are complex creations and we are constantly changing, and this process of adjusting is helping us preserve our mental wellbeing.
We can be the masters of our own personality
To end this in a practical way, let’s reflect on the fantastic opportunity we people have to reinvent ourselves every second of our lives. This is one of the few real choices we can make in life.
We can decide who we want to be, what thoughts to entertain in our minds and how to behave. We can be the masters of our own personality and we do not need any test or theory of mind to tell us who we are.
Take some time to think about your personality in this time of your life. What do you make of it? Are you pleased with what you think and how you behave?
What is influencing your being and would you like to change something to make your personality more aligned with who you want to be? Sleep on it and make note of your ideas tomorrow. They will tell you a lot about who you will become in the future.
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