Love and sex are sometimes related, but not necessarily. We can love without having sex with someone, in the same way we can have sexual relationships with someone we do not love.
However, the matter becomes more complicated when love and sexuality get entangled and these are situations that are not easy to decipher and resolve. Most of our struggles in intimate relationships involve love and sex issues, and couples need to make conscious efforts to learn to communicate their needs openly and make their sexual relationship pleasant and enjoyable.
There are times when our sexual problems involve casual partners, sexual transmitted diseases or pregnancy. In the same way, there are situations when our ability to engage in sexual relationship is impaired by physiological & psychological dysfunctions, such as frigidity and impotence, and they can be overcome with professional support.
Although still a taboo topic even in the western world, sexuality is starting to be explored in more depth in recent decades and people feel more encouraged to acknowledge their own drives, feel comfortable with their sexual identity and embrace their sexual feelings.
However, we are still far from engaging with this topic in a balanced way, and most of the conversations continue to stay at the extremes: people either hide in the closet and deny their sexual drives and desires (regardless their sexual preference), or they expose them in a very public way.
Most people struggle to talk openly about their sexual life and in many situations sex life is either a marital duty or a beautiful platform for intimate pleasure and connection.
Sexuality is essential to our beings, not only for procreation, but also for our overall physical, spiritual and psychological health. Sexuality is fundamental human right in the Western world, but remains a controversial topic in the East.
The reality is that we cannot ignore our sexual impulses, and it makes a massive difference to our wellbeing when we attend our drives, when we understand them and we integrate them into our lives.
Sexuality is closely linked to our self-esteem also. If you accept and embrace your sexuality, you will most likely feel care, respect and appreciation for yourself, whilst if you struggle to accept your sexuality you might feel inadequate, insecure and shameful at times.
This makes sexuality correlate with your overall sense of self-worth, but also with other manifestations like low mood and depression, suicide ideation and attempts, anxiety, addiction, eating disorders, borderline behaviours, self-harm, etc.
A healthy way of dealing with your sexuality is to make space in your life to explore it, understand it and eventually accept it as part of your being.
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